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Success Development

Success Development

Have you ever wondered what makes one individual successful and another not? What is the difference between the homeless individual and the business executive? Is it luck? Education? Connections?  Those issues all certainly could have a bearing on someones success.

I feel there are twenty other Success Development keys that pave the way for your life. Developmental keys that can help transform all of us into the person we strive to be.

The first two steps are acknowledge  fear and overcome it:

  1. Acknowledging Fear – We all have a certain amount of fear buried inside of us. Some wear their fear on their sleeve it is easy for others to see and  that person realizes that fear exist within themselves . Others suppress their fears deep down inside themselves and attempt to bury it. The problem with this second group is that what they carry around  within themselves is what they ultimately show the world. Fears  will always manifest its self somewhere in our lives. We cannot defeat what we will not acknowledge exists.
  2. Over Coming Fear – This can be difficult but the first big step is acknowledging it and facing it.  Paul Assainte, head squash coach at Trinity College and winner of 11 National Championships Has a great book ” Run to the Roar”.  The theory is that in Africa when lions want to feed on gazelles that eat in the open fields, they are difficult to catch in.for some reason these older female lions have ferocious roars.  Now, for some reason older female lions have a ferocious roar. So the lions take the old female lion that cannot hunt any longer and they place the female on one side of the field and the hunters gather on the other side. The female roars and the gazelles run in the opposite direction of the roar were the killers are waiting. If the gazelles had ran towards the roar they would of been safe but by running way they ended up being supper. We have to run toward are fears once we acknowledge them, confront them head on and we can defeat them.

The next three are attitude

3. Finding Inspiration –  It can be difficult for some! Understanding the difference between  inspiration and motivation is important. Motivation is making yourself do something you don’t want to do like mowing the lawn. Inspiration is when you jump out of bed before the alarm goes off because you are so excited about what the day can bring. Inspiration is all around use in music, books, nature and your dreams. You just need to find it.

4. Staying Inspired – Getting inspired is one thing staying inspired is another. When your dream is big enough you can’t  help but stay inspired.

5. Developing a winning attitude -Attitude is everything in life. It is easy to have a great attitude when things are going great it’s when we are faced with challenges that matter. I believe you have to work at developing a winning attitude and it starts when you put your feet on the floor in the morning. What do you tell yourself? What do you say throughout the day in those little self talks we all have with ourselves.

“By altering our attitudes we can alter our lives.”

-Zig Zigler

Watch for the next five step in the next week.

Read about all twenty in by book ” Discover Your Treasure – Twenty Keys To Success”   get it through Amazon


Solving Our Immigration Problem

Solving Our Immigration Problem


I have personally struggled with the issue of Solving Our Immigration Problem. What do we do regarding the illegal immigration problem and the “WALL”. There is a humane and sympathetic side to me that feels for these 11 million souls. But there is a practical side that cares deeply about America and fairness to those who have come to this country legally.

My Grandfather came here from Italy through Ellis Island as did my Mother in law who was an immigrant from Hungry during WWII. One of the proudest days of her life was when she became an American citizen.

What is the answer?

Again I am torn between the moral and the practical. But there is a solution that I believe makes since. I learned about it from a  video produced by Pager University and presented by Pulitzer Prize winner Charles Krauthamer.

There are four basic step involved:

First: Build The Wall. We must stop the flow of illegal immigrants into our country in order to fix the problem. As Charles states a WALL to keep people in is called a prison a WALL to keep people out is called sovereignty.

Second: Develop an E-Verification system that will allow individuals that are here illegally towork.

Third: Develop a visa tracking system. 40% off illegals are he on visa overstays.

Lastly: Deport anyone with a criminal record that is illegal. Then legalize the 11 million that are left. Allow them to stay but we can not give them citizenship.

Charles Krauthamer says it better in this compelling video:

Understand this is a very serious issue to our  future. Please don’t take a position because it seems to be the cool thing to do. Weigh the facts and make an informed decision. America’s future is at stake!


Don’t Quit

It’s funny how things seem to come around in life. When I was in high school trying to become a wrestler I came across this poem. It so touched me that I found a piece of poster board and wrote it out in sloppy hand writing and hung it on my bedroom wall. I read this poem everyday during my high school years but some how lost track of  the poem and it’s incredible message. This week (45 years later) I stumbled across it looking for an inspirational message for my team. I wanted to share it with you.

Hope you enjoy:

Don’t Quit

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,

When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,

When the funds are low and the debts are high,

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing you down a bit,

Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.


Life is queer with its twists and turns,

As every one of us sometimes learns,

And many a fellow turns about

When he might have won had he stuck it out.

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow –

You may succeed with another blow.


Often the goal is nearer than

It seems to a faint and faltering man;

Often the struggler has given up

When he might have captured the victor’s cup;

And he learned too late when the night came down,

How close he was to the golden crown.


Success is failure turned inside out –

The silver tint in the clouds of doubt,

And you never can tell how close you are,

It might be near when it seems afar;

So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit –

It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

   -Author Unknown

Happy Memorial Day


Rotten Eggs-Negative People

Rotten eggs/negative people

Ever hear the term he’s a “good egg”? Thank fully the world is full of “good eggs”.  But there are to many Rotten Eggs Negative People,   people that live lives of despair and helpfulness.

But what about the “bad eggs” the “rotten eggs”? Individuals that seem to have one goal, to make your life miserable. These poor souls are lost and confused, in my opinion. They believe that the world is bad, people are bad and opportunity does not exist in the world today. The problem with “rotten eggs” is they just don’t keep to themselves they seem hell bent on stinking up your life.

They all have an opinion and it is always negative. You’re going to fail, that will never work. They are not stratified  with being miserable on their own they want to drag you into their life of despair.

Here are five ways to protect yourself from rotten eggs;

  • Learn to identify these individuals by site or “smell”. You can always see them for what they are. They will befriend you and try to draw you into their world of doom and gloom. If you see one Run Like Hell!
  • Try not to engage in conversations with these people. Don’t be rude just be mindful that you could be very happy in your job and fifteen minutes with one of these people and you’re looking in the want ads. Just Run Like Hell.
  • There are many people out there that have lives full of drama, in fact to be honest their lives are “train wrecks”. We all need to be Good Samaritans but some people you  just can’t help. Not until they are willing to help themselves. The best thing to do sometimes when you meet these individuals is Run Like Hell.
  • The best thing you and I can do is to be a beckon of light and hope for others. That does not mean that we have to get dragged into their lives. Remember one “rotten egg” can spoil the whole dozen.

Here is a great article from Psychology Today –  by Raj Raghunathan PHD


Seven Success Keys

Seven Success Keys

I have always dreamed big about my life, even during the tough times. There are seven success keys that carried me through the hard times. One book  has had a large impact on me and I would like to share a chapter from this book with my thoughts on it.

The book is Unlimited Power by Tony Robbins and the chapter is ” The Seven Lies of Success”

Tony Robbins calls these seven concepts lies because if you want to believe they have no bearing on your success than, to you, they are lies. But to those of us who choose to believe them, your live can be changed forever.

Keys To Success:

Number One – Everything happens for a reason and a purpose and it serves us.

I was born with a congenital hip, this caused me to walk with sever limp until I was 45 years old at which time I had my first hip replacement( I would have 24 major surgeries in my life). As a child I went through what you can imagine any child in the 1950′s might go through, I was picked on and called names; I’m not telling you this so you can feel sorry for me. You don’t need to, I live an incredible life. I tell you this for this reason, I believe that how I was born was one of the greatest blessings in my life it help me to become the person that I am today. It helped me to develop my personality, my work ethic and my attitude.

Everything happens for a reason and a purpose and it serves us.

Number Two – There is no such thing as failure.

We don’t fail at things in life; we simply decide that whatever we are trying to do is not worth the time and hardships we must go through to get it. If you think about your life you probably have everything you ever really wanted in life, the things you don’t have you, most likely, decided it wasn’t worth what you had to go through to get or you are still working on it.

There is no such thing as failure.

Number Three – Whatever happens take responsibility.

The day that we accept responsibility for the things that happen in our lives is the day we become free. We certainly can’t control everything that happens to us but we can control how we act and feel about those things.

Whatever happens take responsibility.

Number Four – It’s not necessary to understand everything to be able to use everything.

There are so many things that you could learn in any business. Different markets, products, competition, sales techniques and the list goes on and on. If we try to become an expert on every possible option that is out there we will never do anything.

It’s not necessary to understand everything to be able to use everything.

Number Five – People are your greatest resource.

We are in the people business do you truly care about people and I mean all people or do you only care about those that you can make money on. I believe if we our truly in the people business we need to care about all people. Certainly our clients but also the person who waits on us at the restaurant or serves us the coffee at the coffee shop.

People are your greatest resource.

Number Six – Work is play.

Mark Twain said, ” to make your vocation your vacation is success”. Love what you do if not look for your passion and follow it.

Work is play.

Number Seven – There’s no abiding success without commitment.

We are committed to something or we are committed to nothing. Absolute commitment can give use the passion to never give up.

There’s no abiding success without commitment.

Thank you Tony!


My Masters Experience


My Masters Experience

Maybe I got a little carried away last week because of my infatuation with Tiger Woods (if you did not read the blog catch up here:

Friday at 10:00 am I got the most incredible call of my life. A call to attend the Masters and stay at our corporate Host House. This was the start of my Masters Experience.

I can’t begin to explain to you what a surreal experience this was, it was almost like I was dreaming for a day and a half.

 Let me list what I experienced:


  1. First staying at the Host House was incredible all you could eat and or drink. We had a chef for the week from New Orleans. The dinner was fabulous, both the food and the company.
  2. Berckmans Place – My pass gave me access to the best kept secret at Augusta “Berckmans Place” a 90,000-square foot restaurant, pro shop and more. It is tucked in the trees along the 5th fairway and few know it even exists. You need a pass and a wrist band to enter. There are four restaurants and there is no charge for anything except what you get at the pro shop.
  3. When I stepped off the shuttle to Berckmans Place, Pittsburgh Steeler legend Lynn Swann was waiting at the door to greet us.
  4. They have three greens that exactly mirror the greens on the course you get a caddie and try your hand at putting at Augusta National.
  5. While I waited in line I had a nice conversation with Former Secretary of State Condolence Rice (Wow). I could have gone home right then.
  6. As if this was not enough I then got to attend the MASTERS. Imagine me at the Masters our chairs were at Amen Corner fifteen feet from the tee box.
  7.  Phil, Rory, Sergio and all the other great golfers within touching distance.
  8. Leaving Saturday,  what a thrill  on Sunday, to watch Sergio overcome a career barrier winning his first major.

I cannot express the gratitude and appreciation I have for this experience, an experience I will never forget.

See Berckman Place for yourself:



No Tiger No Masters

No Tiger No Masters

Yes, the flags will waive on all 18 majestic holes at Augusta National Golf Course. The pink Dogwoods will blossom on number 2 and the Magnolia’s will dazzle the galleries on 5. But even with all the pageantry and beauty of the home of the Masters Golf Tournament, I believe No Tiger no Masters.

How can there be greatest tournament in the world when the greatest player in the world is unable to play. They need to play the Masters but the Masters needs Tiger Woods.
A four-time winner of the Green Jacket this past Tuesdays Champions dinner marked 20 years since he won his first, at a time when both his mind and body were working perfectly in unison.
His 79 PGA wins dwarfs his 20 surgeries 4 to 1. s Oh, he had his personal issues that I’m sure set him back but Tiger Woods has become a product of himself winning 4 Masters with 3 different swings, swings which surly stressed his body. He has had to reinvent himself to be able to work though his many injuries.

Many have written Tiger Woods off. I have not. I still hold the dream that he will once again find the strength, discipline and courage to reinvent himself, one more time. Come back crush Jack’s record and retire as the true greatest golfer that ever lived.

Until then there will always be just something missing from the Masters.

Don’t believe me watch and see:


True Courage

True Courage


True Courage

Matias  Ferreira and his family moved from Uruguay to America when Matias was 6 years old. From his early years he always admired men in uniform. He decided that he either would become a soldier or a member of law enforcement. Who knew it would take true courage to make his dream a reality.

January 21, 2011 on patrol in Afghanistan, Matias jumped from a building onto a bomb that took both his legs.

Within three months he was back in the United States walking with prosthetics  starting a new life without his legs. One can only image the true courage it must have taken Matias to take those first steps with the attitude that he would just start over.

True Courage to start over

Soon he was doing things he never thought about prior to his injury. Playing softball with wounded warriors, skydiving, scuba diving, snowboarding and motorcycle riding.

But his biggest accomplishment came earlier this month when he was sworn-in as a police officer for the Suffolk County Police Department. ( He is the first double amputee to achieve this milestone).

Following his 29 week training which he passed at the same level as all officers, he was elected President of his class because of his true courage and the example he has set.

If Matias can rise to this level of success, what can you do?

Here is his story:


America’s Death

America’s Death

America's DeathThe Great American experiment is getting its greatest challenge in the coming years and America’s Death is looming if something is not done. Established as a Democratic Republic under a constitution that protected the rights of all citizens.  Politicians – Republicans, Democrats and Independents have been allowed to destroy our country.

And I blame them all.  It is disgraceful what we are witnessing in Washington. Given the severity of our situation the parties should come together and solve these issues before America’s Death.

Here are issues causing America’s Death

  1. No term limits– Politicians can remain in office and stay until they die, this causes them to do whatever is necessary to get reelected.
  2. Political Ideology– Most politicians will sacrifice the people to support their party ideology (weather they believe in it or not).
  3. Life time  premium benefits health coverage and retirement – That you and I do not have access to will lead them down a path to do whatever gets them reelected.
  4. Tort Reform– Most politicians are attorneys so why would they turn on their own?
  5. Refusal to repair things that could be political landmines to their careers at the expense of the people that have elected them.

I love America, and I feel blessed to have been able to grow up and live in this great country. Politicians have been given the ability to live a privileged life in Washington, on the backs of the very people they should protect. I truly believe term limits for all politicians is one of the only way that this ship can be put on the right path. Our challenge is getting the individuals that are abusing the power to act against their personal best interest.

This is the just the tip of the iceberg on the problems in America below is a video every American Democrat, Republican or Independent should watch and take heed of.




Five Ways To Build A Team In A Me Society

Generational differences foster a “ME” society in the workplace

It is obvious to most individuals that are honest with themselves that we live in a “me” society.  We are for the most part, self absorbed and we want what we want when we want it, which is normally, right this moment. We cannot debate the that life expectancy being extended longer every year has resulted in more generations overlapping in the workplace. Boomers, Generation X’ers the Millennials. Leading  a team with such varying beliefs, knowledge and work ethic to say the least can be challenging. Before we can explore the techniques best utilized to build a successful team environment with such generational differences we should look at each group and try to understand what motivates them.

The Differences

The Boomers

  • Born: Between 1956 and 1964
  • Influencers: Civil Rights, Vietnam War, Sexual Revolution, The Cold War and Space Travel
  •  “The American Dream” was promised to them as children and they have chased it. Seen as greedy, materialistic and ambitious.
  • Core Values: Anti War, Anti Government, Equal Rights, Optimism, Personal Growth, Work
  • Work Ethic: Driven, Workaholic 

The Generation X’ers

  •  Born: Between 1965-1980
  • Influencers: Watergate, Energy Crisis, Duel Income Families and Single Parents, Latchkey, Y2K, Increased Divorce Rate
  • Their perceptions are shaped by growing up having to take care of themselves early and watching politicians lie and their parents get laid off. The first generation that will NOT do as well financially as their parents did.
  • Core Values: Balance, Entrepreneurial, Fun, Higher Education, High Expectations, Suspicious of Boomers Values, Techno Literacy
  • Work Ethic: Balance, Work Smarter With Quicker Output

The Millennials

  • Born: Between 1981-2000
  • Influencers: Digital Media, Child Focused World, Terrorist Attacks, AIDS, 9/11, Many Grew Up Children of Divorce
  • Millennials came of age in a period of economic expansion. First generation of children to have schedules.
  • Core Values: Achievement, Civic Duty, Confidence, Diversity FUN!, Global Community, Now!, Extremely Techno Savvy
  • Work Ethic: Ambitious, What’s Next


To see the whole Generational Difference Chart click link:

These distinct Generational Difference have caused each group to establish camps within many organizations with Millennials begrudging Boomers, Boomers complaining about X’ers and so on. This situation becomes compounded when each group feels entitled based on their personal realities of what they deserve. The work place becomes about “ME or I” rather than the team. And to steal an old cliche ” There is no “me” I in team”.

Five Ways To Build A Team In A Me Society

  1. Develop and communicate vision for where  you want to take the team and try to incorporate each generational groups core values into how you will succeed with individuals with different skill sets.
  2. Be open about the generational differences between groups and individuals. Don’t be afraid to have open dialogue about how each individual can benefit  the team because of the diversity.
  3. Encourage interaction between the generations on your team. Use team building exercise were you pair up a Boomer and a Millennial, as an example
  4. Be understanding that you cannot paint everyone with the same brush. It takes many different skill sets and personalities to build a great team.
  5. Keep it personal. Let the individuals know that you understand their motivations and drivers and that they fit into the teams vision.

Here is a post that should give you a laugh

Boomers vs. Millennials @ Work